What you meet in another being is the projection of your own level of evolution.
"I am like the Wind, No one can hold me, I belong to everyone, No one can own me." - Sri Neem Karoli Baba
The Truth is the only thing you’ll ever run into that has no agenda.
The ground of our being can only be uncovered through deep and precise contact with ourselves. The wide open space of spiritual awareness is our own mind, unbound. The wide open space of the spiritual heart is our own heart, free of constrictions.
Emotion arises at the place where mind and body meet. It is the body’s reaction to your mind—or you might say, a reflection of your mind in the body.
The more you are identified with your thinking, your likes and dislikes, judgments and interpretations, which is to say the less present you are as the watching consciousness, the stronger the emotional energy charge will be, whether you are aware of it or not.
Basically, all emotions are modifications of one primordial, undifferentiated emotion that has its origin in the loss of awareness of who you are beyond name and form. You will not be free of that pain until you cease to derive your sense of self from identification with the mind, which is to say from ego.
The place you are looking for is the place from which you are looking.
Do not search. That which is, is. Stop and see.
Know that the eradication of the identification with the body is charity, spiritual austerity and ritual sacrifice; it is virtue, divine union and devotion; it is heaven, wealth, peace and truth; it is grace; it is the state of divine silence; it is the deathless death; it is jnana, renunciation, final liberation and bliss.
Sri Ramana Maharshi